Attachment Trauma

Research into the long term consequences of our attachment to our primary caregivers when we were young has proven to have major implications in our lives. As we begin to form attachments to our primary caregivers, we are also learning how to self-soothe, how to regulate our emotions, how we internalize our self-worth, how we assess our environment for safety and our ability to trust that our needs will be met. We either believe from an early age that we are important and can depend on others to be there for us, in other words secure,  or conversely we feel unworthy, rejected and subsequently insecure about our place in the world and all our relationships. These initial relationships determine the trajectory for all future interactions and health of our relationships. If there has been attachment trauma, which can include everything from abuse to neglect, we have a higher likelihood of suffering poor self-esteem, low self-confidence, a distorted sense of self, and core shame. It can also predict the potential for anxiety or depression.  Often we are so full of shame and guilt over our actions that we get stuck in our process of healing. Exploringour attachments gives us awareness of circumstances we were exposed to and allow for understanding and compassion. With compassion we can release ourselves from victimization and shame.